LGBTİ+ aileleri Onur Haftası’nı kutluyor: “Biz her zaman buradayız”

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Tanış, Lezbiyen Gey Biseksüel Trans İnterseks Bireylerin Aileleri ve Yakınları Derneği (LİSTAG) ve Ankara Gökkuşağı Aileleri Derneği‘nden (GALADER) Günseli DumNeşe TamerZüheyla Baranselve Atilla Dirim‘i konuk etti. Aileler programda, Onur Yürüyüşü’nü, LGBTİ+ birey olmayı ve aileler olarak onlarla birlikte olabilmeyi konuştu.

LİSTAG Hayat Kurtarır

Çocuğunuz size eşcinsel, biseksüel veya trans olduğunu açıklarsa ne olur? Çocukları veya yakınları LGBTİ+ (Lezbiyen, Gay, Biseksüel, Trans, İnterseks ve +) olan aileleriz; anne ve babalarız biz, derneğimizin adı LİSTAG.

Çocuğunun veya bir yakınının eşcinsel, biseksüel, trans, interseks olduğunu öğrenen ve Danışma Hattımıza ulaşan aileler kısa sürede bilgiye, gönüllü ruh sağlığı uzmanlarına ulaştılar, diğer aileler ile tanışıp dayanışma içine girdiler.

Sizin de çocuğunuzun ya da bir yakınınızın cinsel yönelimi, cinsiyet kimliği veya ifadesi ile ilgili merak ettikleriniz varsa ve ne yapacağınızı bilmiyorsanız bizi aramaktan çekinmeyin. 

LİSTAG DANISMA HATTI: 0546 484 82 85


Lezbiyen, Gey, Biseksüel, Trans, İnterseks Bireylerin Aileleri ve Yakınları Derneği


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LGBTİ+ bireylerin aileleri çocuklarının ‘açılma’ sürecini ve yaşadıklarını Euronews’a anlattı.

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28. İstanbul Onur Haftası bünyesinde, 22 Haziran 2020 günü bir canlı yayın gerçekleştirdik. Aşağıda bu yayınımızı izleyebilirsiniz. Kanalımıza üye olmayı unutmayınız.

Atanmış aile evlerine sığanlar, sığınanlar, sığamayanlar

Sunucular: Çağla ve Kerem

Konuklar: Günseli, Züleyha, Tülay, Melis, Neşe

Reji Masası: Tarkan Fenercioğlu, Metehan Özkan



“Our Children, A Guide for Families and Relatives” (Çocuklarımız, Aile ve Yakınlar için bir Rehber) is a booklet designed for LGBTI+ parents and relatives. The booklet is published by LISTAG (Families and Relatives of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Individuals) in collaboration with LGBTI+ family groups from different cities around Turkey serves as an invaluable resource for parents and relatives of LGBTI+ children and youth. In the preface it reads that the purpose of the booklet is to share knowledge gained by the common experiences of families of gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans individuals, and provide families with less or little experience with information and help raise their awarenesse. Included in the preface is an important note on the fact that the feelings and thoughts many LGBTI+ families initially experience when their children come out to them are similar and that knowing they are not alone is in itself comforting.

What makes this resource booklet a powerful read is that it also includes extracts from the book, “Stories Under the Rainbow” (Gökkuşagından Hikayeler), a compilation of real life stories from the families of LGBTI+ individuals. These accounts, distributed throughout the booklet, are the voices of parents of LGBTI+ children and youth relaying their own struggles, challenges, and experiences. Perhaps these narratives effectively echo similar sentiments to the parents reading “Our Children”, reassuring them that their experience is not unique to them.

The booklet provides definitions for core LGBTI+ terminology such as for gender identity and sexual orientation; information and suggestions for parents on ways to cope with their own feelings; information about the coming out process as LGB and how best to support LGBTI+ individuals and the coming out process of trans children and youth, and what the transition process in Turkey entails. It also contains information about LISTAG and the work it does to support families and raise awareness about LGBTI+ discrimination and rights.  

Stressing the importance of carving space and time for reflection to process feelings and thoughts, the booklet notes that many parents may neglect the fact that they too need support, and encourages parents to also tend to their own feelings while supporting their child.

One main suggestion the booklet provides to parents is to operate from a place of love despite wherever they may be in their own acceptance process and that a great way to find solidarity is to get in touch with LGBTI+ family groups. In the afterword, a parent encourages other parents to confront their own fears together with their children and to be open to learning about other lives without judgement and adds, “Let’s try to really understand and let’s not leave our children alone on this challenging journey.”

For a parent whose child may have recently come out to them as LGBTI+ and who may lack knowledge on the topic, finding access to information and guidance on LGBTI+ topics in Turkish might be a challenging endeavor. Providing parents with a good starting point, this is an impactful resource that will serve this gap and help many families better understand and support their LGBTI+ child. It is not difficult to imagine the positive impact “Our Children” will have on many families. With its clear explanations, suggestions and the narratives from experienced parents, “Our Children” makes a great gift to all parents of LGBTI+ children and youth.

Review by Lukka Alp Akarçay for LGBTI News Turkey



Stories Under the Rainbow (Gökkuşagından Hikayeler) is a book about love and family. This powerful collection of twenty-nine stories is a candid celebration of families connecting and reconnecting with, understanding and supporting their LGBTI+ child. Each story, told by a parent, reveals the many aspects in which the cultural upbringing and societal pressures of heteronormativity create unexamined and limiting belief systems that configure the world of parents for most of their lives. These long-standing belief systems, however, unexpectedly fall to pieces when their child comes out to them as LGBTI+. In these narratives, we read how many of the parents experience similar feelings that impart sadness, worry, incomprehension and indignation in reaction to a reality that at first challenges them. The challenges bring changes that alter their modes of living in positive ways. They come to realize, as they are forced to reexamine their convictions, that what they held to be true can be challenged to show other possibilities or acknowledge what is fundamentally flawed. When families find new ways to reconnect with one another, they begin to explore what it means to fully embrace, support and love their child for who they are. We read how beautifully their worlds expand in their reflections on their fears and struggles to dismantle learned homophobia and transphobia.

These narratives are also a meditation on how much our worlds and thinking are shaped by society. Many parents recount similar sentiments on how little they knew about other lives, how it was impossible for them to imagine the lives of LGBTI+ people or the fact that they even existed due to their own lack of knowledge, fear or merely holding onto misconceptions based on what they had heard from others. A parent puts it, “In this society, there are actually a lot of people who hide and suppress who they are and who do not express themselves for fear of judgement because this society is not a tolerant one.”

At first focused on denial and worry, the narratives evolve to celebrate love and life. “This process allowed me to understand and get to know all the other marginalized groups in society and learn more about the experiences of disabled people, Roma, Aleviis, Kurds and women” reflects one parent on how much their world view has expanded and adds, “I see now that the biggest hurdle in front of us is the world’s biggest terror organization. This organization, is not an armed terror organization. It is everyone.”

As someone who has come out to their parents as a trans man, it was hard to withhold tears reading about some of the coming out dialogues between the families and how time, love, and support restored many broken pieces and uprooted the barriers to understanding one another. Equally moving was the parents’ profoundly transformative journey from one of loss, confusion, and blame to one of joy, strength, and empowerment. Fully supporting their LGBTI+ child, they stand up to their neighbors, to school counselors, teachers, or their own friends, demonstrating how by becoming their child’s best ally, they are paving the way for other families to do the same.

This is a very intimate book that reminds us how much we need to hear the stories of people that are othered and marginalized in order to fight against discrimination and harmful narrow constraints of existing and living in this world. These stories inspire and ignite a powerful celebration of life in all its spectrum of colors.

Review by Lukka Alp Akarçay for LGBTI News Turkey